When you start to feel a little crazy for someone new, your infatuation might start feeling a little like love. But that four-letter word is a big one, and you can do some serious damage if you start throwing it around before you ACTUALLY feel it. If you’re on the fence about saying the L-word, make sure you’ve had experienced these important things together first.
1. THE OH-SO-SCARY COMMITMENT TALK
If you two aren’t exclusive, what the hell are you doing telling this guy that you love him? Trying to rush ahead to the romantic proclamation is just pure BS. Before you even consider telling him that he’s the one, you need to figure out if he’s “the one” for someone else, too. Otherwise, don’t be surprised if your heart ends up broken.
2. THE FIRST BIG ARGUMENT
Arguments as healthy from time to time. It’s how couples air out their problems and get things off their chests. If you’re still in the “Everything is perfect!” phase, there’s no way you should be calling this “love” anytime soon. Have your first really awful argument, survive it, then we’ll talk.
3. THE “WHO TF IS SHE” PHASE
Jealousy is never en vogue. Still, it’s only natural that you’d feel a little envious when your new guy starts talking with a new (and undeniably attractive) female friend. You absolutely have to go through the jealousy phase so you can know how he feels about you. If you’re just one of many girls he’s dating, you might want to hold off on the L-word.