You’ve finally met a seemingly great guy and things are going well, but now you’ve got to get over the big hurdle: making things exclusive. The biggest obstacle is trying to figure out if he’s still seeing or talking to other women, which can prove a difficult task if you’re not willing to just be outright and ask. If you’re currently trying to decode the situation, here are 15 signs that you may not be his only one:
1. HE’S NOT TEXTING YOU OFTEN.
This might not have been weird 10 years ago, but in 2017, it’s often the first sign that he’s not 100 percent committed. Of course, this varies person to person. The guy you’re seeing just might be a bad texter, but you should know when you’re approaching ghosting levels.
2. HE’S CHANGED HOW REGULARLY HE CONTACTS YOU.
When he was trying to get your attention, maybe before you went out for the first time or slept together, did he get in touch often? If he used to be in touch constantly and you’re now waiting hours upon hours for a simple “hi,” something is up.
3. HE MAKES NO MENTION OF THE FUTURE.
His birthday is in a month, and every time you ask what he wants to do, he changes the subject. There’s no mention of weekend plans, let alone holidays or anything beyond that. If he’s not planning for the future, odds are he’s not anticipating there will be a future.